{the old proverbial "doghouse"}

Have you ever been a complete jackass, but didn't know you were because you had a perfectly logical reason for why you were being a complete jackass?

Have you ever figured out that you have been acting like a complete jackass, but when you finally have seen the light, some damage has already been done?

Have you ever done or said some things that you knew were wrong at the time, but did or said them anyway because you were determined to be right.

It's called being in denial, not living in reality. Start the process of emotionally cleaning house and you may be surprised at what follows.